How to attract each other?

Same character exhibited differently

Same poles repel each other.

If A is resisting B, or fighting, or in discord with B then we always say that both are opposite poles.


It is false. The truth is they are the same poles. That is why they repel each other.

A is actively resisting B, while B is passively resisting.

One’s resistance is outward. The other’s resistance is inward – mental.

Mentally both are in the same poles. Repulsion is a state of mind, by which both don’t know why they are against each other.

Normally we sympathize with B, thinking that B is a victim and A is the persecutor.

They are mentally in the same state or resistance, and both of them are doing it without their knowing.

Take the opposite stance

One has to shift their stance and be in the opposite pole to attract him.

Who has to do that? It is the one who wants peace and harmony. When B wants harmony, he has to understand that,

The opposite pole of ANGER is FORGIVENESS.

The opposite pole of CRITICISM is PRAISE.

The opposite pole of RESISTANCE is ADJUST.

The opposite pole of PRIDE is THANKS (love).

The opposite pole of ARROGANCE is HUMILITY.

How to achieve the mental state for harmony?


The mental state of thanks and forgiveness is the only way to be in the opposite pole to have harmony with the other person.There is no other route.

Keep the different parts of the mind TOGETHER and chant “TOGETHER BOW CONCEDE ADJUST PRAISE FORGIVE THANKS”.

Additionally, write “TOGETHER OIL HELP HOLE” to overcome the repulsion (OIL removes friction, while HOLE attracts).

When a person is resisting you…

If you watch your thoughts on a daily basis, you will understand that your thoughts – your mental state – are against the person who is disharmonious with you.

Every thought against the person, keeps you in the same plane – same pole – and you will never achieve what you want as long as you are in this state.

Regular introspection will help you find this.

When there is a stream of thoughts bombarding, counter them or stop the flow with “TOGETHER BOW CONCEDE ADJUST PRAISE FORGIVE THANKS”.

Once you decided to be in the opposite pole, you need not pathetically look for a change in the opposite person.

When change happens within you, when you have shifted yourself to the opposite pole 100%, then he will change (automatically). Till such time, he will keep on reminding you that you are in the same pole as he is.

Life is fundamentally management of Mind. It gives us lessons always.

The Power Life Symbol LOVE (66) will direct your state of mind towards a state of LOVE.

About Elsol

Naran balakumar is a herbalist practising bach flower therapy for the last 21 years. Naran is a Reiki master teacher.

Posted on July 29, 2013, in Forgive Love Thanks, SwitchWord and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.

  1. Sir i am 21 yr old boy
    sir i have very diffn problem
    i m victim black magic my story is very mysterious sometimes i think of sucide bt i know thats not proper soln. Sir whtever i think in my mind never happens there is something is present in my body which totally controls my mind never let it happens. sir beleive its not my imagination its true 100% true i m facing this problem since my childhood when i was 7-8 years der is 1 symptom of it that can prove its true thing.some cotton always comes from navel for last 10 years
    first time i thought it was due to my shirt by later der was not any clue of dat cotton today also it is unsolved mystery for me .sir i m living cursed life has become hell i have lost everything plz help me out… Sir how to come out of this problem i was studying engineering but due to this problem i couldnt do anything i cant do anything i lost my hope, coz of my failure people criticize me lot.
    Plz plz sir help me….
    Thank you

  2. vijaya2005lakshmi

    Namaste ji, what a lovely explanation given. \yes I do understand that the more we think about the opposite person and  his  animosity we are  in the same place and cannot move forward . This explanation given to adjust and  forgive and praise is  very apt and I have been doing thee forgiving exercise but not  doing it inn the way explained here…I shall certainly do that and  will find  harmony and peace. The mantras and mudras help me inn lot of ways .\of course when I come to Chennai I shall make it a point to attend the classes.I really thank you from the bottom of my heart.May GOD BE WITH YOU. vijjayalakshmi.


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